I don't really make New Year's resolutions anymore, at least not of the 'I will lose weight/give up chocolate/stop drinking so much coffee variety. Like most people I would slip up three or four days into January, feel like I had failed and give up completely. Until the next year when I'd go through the whole silly process all over again.
These days I take a slightly different approach. I write out a list of about 13 things that I would like to achieve during the year. There is no urgency about this list, if I start something and it doesn't work first time, that's OK. I've got all year to get it right.
Did I do everything on last year's list? No.
Does it matter? No, not a bit. My list isn't carved in stone. Its a rough guide, and there aren't any penalties for not finishing it all. In fact I'll have another look at it around mid-summer and adjust it if I need to. Sometimes our priorities change.
So, what's on my list for 2012? Well, its not complete yet, but here's what I've got so far.
LEARN TO DRIVE- This is a biggie. Its been on my 'to do' list since I was 17. Nerves got the better of me back then when I took my test, and then I ended up married to a man who didn't want me to have any kind of Independence so my lessons stopped. The Mad Druid added me to his car insurance and encouraged me to drive whenever I could, but then we moved to London and anyone who has lived in that great city will know that its often quicker to walk than drive. I got out of the habit, and passing my test simply wasn't at the top of my list of priorities. But now we live in Cornwall and being able to drive would be a huge advantage, especially as the mad druid is waiting for an operation on his shoulder. There is no way I'm going to be able to afford to take my test before then but it has made me realise how important it is.
SOCIALISE MORE- yes really. Hermit Witch wants to be less hermit like! I never used to be quite so insular and although there were good reasons for becoming that way, it is now more out of habit than anything else. We have been living in Cornwall for over two years now yet I still only know my immediate neighbours, and although I will enjoy sitting in the garden with them for a drink in the summer, none are what I could describe as friends. The thing that made me this way no longer gives me nightmares, I am no longer scared of people (I got a job in London which forced me to deal with that- you can't be a tour guide and hide!!) but I became so used to not opening up and connecting with people I have forgotten how. This is the year that changes and you have my full permission to give me a cyber kick up the arse if it looks like I'm not doing it!
FINISH MY NANO NOVEL- I loved every minute of participating in NaNoWriMo in 2011. I love writing. This year I'm going to do much more of it.
BECOME MORE SELF-SUFFICIENT- Not in a keeping chickens kind of way (unless I can find a way of squeezing then into my handkerchief sized garden) but just making the most of my talents. Having accepted there are very few jobs going around here its time to look at other options. I want to be able to take the pressure off my Mad Druid a bit. So whether its growing my own veg and brewing my own beer, making my writing pay, selling pictures or doing tarot readings , I have the resources available to provide food or a small income. I just have to put those ideas into practise.
GET OUT AND ABOUT MORE- I need more fresh air, more exorcise. I am lucky enough to live in a stunning part of the country and yet I have actually explored very little of it. There is a limit to how far the Mad Druid can walk, especially if it's cold and damp, and I always feel rotten leaving him behind while I go out so I don't go as far as I'd like. I know he understands though, and hey, if we plan it right I can get him to meet me at my destination with a picnic. Sorted :)
So as we journey into 2012 may your path be an interesting one, shared with those you love as you walk its twists and turns, its ups and downs, scramble through the brambles and thorn thickets, meet fellow travellers and enjoy its breathtaking views. This time next year it will all be memories, enjoy making them.
Blessings to you all.